Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Hope for the Weary

My Facebook feed reminded me that this week is National Infertility Awareness Week and as I held the 5 month old Baby Bean Dragon in my arms and looked down at her big blue eyes, I started to weep.  My heart is not that far removed that I have forgotten the weariness on the journey it took for her to be part of our family.

According to the CDC, approximately 15% of all couples are facing some form of infertility---if you are in a room with 8 couples, odds are at least one of them is striving to have a child.



So once again, I implore each of you to be reminded of the often silent struggle that so many women and couples are facing each and every month as they try to grow their family. Infertility is so often covered in shame that we as women are not able to do what we as women are “supposed” to be able to do.  It is something that we are reminded about on a monthly basis of how “broken” our bodies are, whether they’re the issue or not.  I can’t even recall how many times I told someone I was “fine” when they asked how my life was progressing, when within the past week I had stared at another negative pregnancy test and was much less than “fine.”  And how many times I chose not to share my daily infertility struggles because it had been 17 months and I believed the lie that people were tired of hearing about it and my continual broken heart.

These past few weeks, I have been working on memorizing this verse and I think it is so applicable to families who are weary and struggling with infertility and is such an amazing promise that God has given us in his Word…“[God] gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.  Even youths grow tired and weary and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.” (Isaiah 40: 28-31)  I cannot count the innumerable times that God renewed my strength and helped me lift one foot in front of the other as I struggled to conceive.

So friends, look around.  See those friends and family members and co-workers that are struggling this Infertility Awareness Week and as Mother’s Day approaches, which is an especially painful day when your arms are empty. See these women and listen to them.  You may not know what they’re going through on a personal level, but that doesn’t stop you from offering a hug and a prayer.   Even if they’ve been struggling for years, don’t let them be forgotten.  My prayer is that these families are surrounded by love this week and that their strength will be renewed as they persevere in this journey.


And as always, I pray that someone hands them a baby, too.